The addict's dedication to the 12-step program is just as important as the family's dedication to the recovery process. Many families feel that they are not the problem and that the addict is the only one who needs therapy. But that is not always the case.
Down the addict's road of destruction, the family was a passenger, dealing with the pain, the betrayal, the lies and broken promises. As a family, you may be asking yourself: can you dare to hope again?
Here at Above It All we offer counseling for the whole family while your loved one is in treatment. Engaging in a therapy session with a licensed therapist via a three-way or four-way call -- or here on-site, if possible -- is beneficial not only to your loved one but to you as a family. You will be able to hear the changes that your loved one is going through and decide for yourself whether or not you can hope again.
It may take years to repair the trust you once shared, but as you watch your loved ones' dedication to the 12-step program grow after their stay here at Above It All Treatment Center, let their commitment to staying clean and sober be an indicator that trust can be repaired and built back up. They are keeping their promises. A total life change is necessary for the addict to have success in their recovery – and their family is part of that. Everyone must be willing to make changes for the better.
A word of advice: Do not let your loved ones claims of material needs to stay clean and sober weigh you down. The rule is to not give them more than you can afford to lose. They want to do well, but likely do not have the tools to do so, yet. We are not talking about withholding love, but just the opposite – we love them enough to not help them hurt themselves.
The path of the 12-step program, while based on the reconciliation to a higher power, is not a religious based program, but a holistic approach to your loved one’s complete recovery – mind, body and spirit. Understanding these steps as they go through them will help everyone grow during the recovery process. What is asked of you is that you trust the process. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, your loved one will return to you as long as they do the simple things that it takes to stay clean and sober, 12 little steps at a time.
Time and time again, we have proven the 12-step program. That is why we have incorporated it into all of our inpatient programs. It has a proven track record both in the rehab industry and in our facility for the last 20 years. This means we are truly focused on what will work for you or a loved one.
Here at Above It All, we will always be available to you should you need our help. We are here to support the families of our addicts and substance abusers. Please do not hesitate to call if you see trouble on the horizon – help is only a phone call away.